A Piece of Advice

First of all, I apologize for being gone so much. It hit me pretty hard to lose my only grandfather and then break up with my boyfriend. Which I did get over since I am into someone new.


Secondly, this going to be the start of a new series of posts that I'm going to call, "A Piece of Advice"!
I picked to call it that since it's simple and it goes with PandaSweets. Get it?
Like you get a piece of candy which is a sweet? Errr..... -.- *Ahem*
(I am so sorry for being weird.)
Just to note, my advice is from my personal experience and I am not making you take my advice.

*Results may vary from person to person*

"A Piece of Advice" will have different kinds of advice.
Some will refer to relationships, liking someone, school, life, etc.
Honestly, "A Piece of Advice" will only be posted when I do come up with something. Since I don't want to just search the internet and post whatever I found.
So, "A Piece of Advice" will pretty much always come from my own experiences or from people I know.




Okay, Let's get on with the actual piece of Advice! :D
So to start off, this "A Piece of Advice" will be about Break ups.

Since I did just get through one myself, I decided this will be the first topic.

Break ups are hard, whether you're the one being broken up with or the person ending things. As for me, I was the one who broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years and about 5 months.

Just so you guys can know just how badly I took the break up, I'll tell you how our relationship all started. Which was on none other than, facebook.
Yes, I am stupid for adding people I didn't really know but at least me and him had a mutual friend. (Whether or not this is the case, it's bad and can lead to bad things and events. I was lucky.) We actually met in person when we decided to watch the first part of Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows. (Sorry, this is going to be a pretty long post to make up for being gone so long.)

Anyway, he didn't ask me to be his girlfriend until after a couple of times of him walking from his house to my high school. There, he hung out with me during paste-up (Yes, I was in my high school newspaper for 2 1/2 years). During the second day he visited, it was time for everyone to go home. The date was December 8,2010. While he was walking me to my school's front door, he turned to me and asked, "Alyssa, would you be my girlfriend?" and of course I said, "Yeah, sure!" I hugged him and I was so happy that I finally had someone who cared for me, other than family and close friends.

After our first anniversary, I decided to finally tell my mom that I was dating someone. This was hard for me to do because all that time, I was lying to her face about where I was going and with who. My reason for lying to her was, I thought she wouldn't let me date him. Which is a stupid reason since she can't actually force me to break-up with him.

Okay, fast forwarding to our second year of dating (I finally knew we were pretty serious) I told my whole family about our relationship, that happened when they all met him at my graduation party. Well, eventually everything settled down and we were over the whole, "Honeymoon" phase and according to Wongfu Productions' video, "Strangers Again", we were at the stage "Comfortable". I let that comfort make me drift away from him. I say that because, I started to not care about how much we talked on the phone or what we did when we saw each other, which wasn't that often.

The beginning of this year, which was going to be our third year of dating, we were at "Stage 5: Tolerance". Why? I was the one tolerating him. I knew deep in my heart that he deserved someone better than me. I always told him whenever we got into a fight. No, we weren't one of those couples who "broke up" when ever they had a fight. We always worked it out some how. During the end of March and beginning of April I started to realize that I didn't feel the same way any more.

May 8, 2013 12:30am. He was the one who actually encouraged me to break up with him over the phone instead of text. (Yeah... I'm that person. The person who's too scared to break up with someone in person.) I told him I didn't feel the same way and that I wanted to just focus on school. He told me how he felt. But he accepted it. The thing that hurt me the most and made me start crying was the fact that he wanted me to delete all of out pictures together and how he just basically wanted to disappear from my life. I however wanted him to still be in my life just not as my boyfriend. Right then and there I was okay with it, but then I would be reminded that I broke up with him and suddenly tear up. After a week, I had the urge to just text him and have a conversation with him. But I knew I couldn't.

So, now that you guys know how our relationship went, here's some advice for those of you going through a break up or even thinking of breaking up with someone.

1. Make sure you're breaking up with someone for the right reasons or for good reasons. If you're going to break up with them because they forgot to text you ONE TIME, don't. Just talk it out and ask them why they didn't respond. If you do end up breaking up with them for that kind of reason, they might now be willing to get back together with you.
2. The most important thing to do when getting over someone is to move on. It's hard at first I know, but you will be able to do it.
3. Allow yourself to move on. What do I mean by this? I mean, don't keep calling your ex or just sit there and think about good memories you had with them. If it helps just think about a little bit about the bad memories.
4. When you move on, don't forget, not everyone will like you back. Just keep moving on.
5. Listening to music can effect you and the way you feel. When you just got out of a break up, it's okay to listen to depressing music for the first week or month or how ever long you need. Just make sure when it does become a month after, listen to happy or upbeat music. It helps especially if there's a funny music video to go with it.
6. Getting over someone requires you to get out of the house and hang out with your friends. Why do people say things like "Bros before hoes"? Well, its because close friends will always be there for you no matter what. When you guys hangout, go to places like the mall so you can look for a new guy or the movie theater to watch a new funny movie that just came out or whatever you like that your ex didn't.
7. If you ever see your ex with some other girl in public, and this will happen eventually, do not and I repeat, DO NOT go crazy and charge over there and give them a piece of your mind. Why? That's because you will only make yourself look crazy, obsessive, and really jealous. If you're with a guy friend, ask him if it's okay to pretend that you two are going out and make it seem like you two are the happiest people on earth. If you're with a friend that's a girl, just go into a store or walk the other way. Remember, DO NOT go crazy.

Okay, I am so sorry if none of my advice helped you. These are just things I did to get over my ex. Like I said, whether you're the one being broken up with or if you're the one ending things, a break up is still a break up and it still hurts. Honestly, this is the last thing I had to do to fully get over my ex. I am not saying that relationships that start on facebook or other social media sites don't work out because some times they do. For example, my friend Olivia and her fiance Brock met online and are now getting married! :D

*As stated before, results my vary from person to person*

Hope this helped you guys!
P.S. Sorry about any grammar mistakes or spelling. I was in rush to go to sleep. ;) 

Alyssa <3

Update!

I am so sorry I haven't been posting lately....
I know I said that i would try to post regularly but that week after I was dealing with a bunch of different emotional things going on in my life.
First, my one and only grandfather passed away. (I still very much miss him.)
Why did I say, "one and only grandfather"? That's because I wasn't born yet to ever meet my dad's dad.
He pasted away when only my oldest brother was born and he's 32 years old...I think.
Second, school.....
The biggest reason I haven't been posting for awhile is because of the fact that I just broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years and 5 months.


So, again I apologize for not posting anything.
I will be sure to post regularly when everything blows over.

Thanks for being understanding and patient <3

John Frieda Dark Cherry Brown Review!

Okay, I know it seems like I dye my hair a lot. But honestly, I used to.
It has been about two months since the last time I dyed my hair.
Since then, I have taken good care of my hair.


I always wanted my hair to be a light ash blonde color but since I'm not fair enough, I know I can never dye my hair to that color.
Ever since my best friend dyed her hair a red color I kind of wanted to try it for myself.
Last weekend we went to our local Ulta store and I had purchased a box of John Frieda hair dye.

Dark Cherry Brown

Color Chart

Contents of Box

I chose this color because even though I wanted to dye my hair red, I was going for more of a burgundy color. I didn't want my hair to be bright and "in your face" red.

My Before Hair:

 You can see where I bleached my hair for the teal.

The Dying Process:

I kind of already had the feeling that my hair was going to turn out darker than it showed on the result chart.

Conditioner; smells amazing! :)

My After Hair:

You can't see the ugly blonde-green ^^

No Flash; Indoor Lighting

Flash; Indoor Lighting

Red Tint...

Results: My hair looks black indoors but outdoor with sunlight, you can see more of the red.

More pics:

*The color will bleed when you shower the first time after dying your hair. Use colored towel.*

Ratings (out of 5):

Color: 2 out of 5

I liked how the color is a dark red. 

But I at least wanted the red to show a little more, especially in the sunlight. 

When in the sunlight you can only see the red tint. 

Softness: 5 out of 5

I love the size and smell of the conditioner.

After using it, my hair was so soft that I couldn't stop touching it.

The conditioner is also big enough for you to use once a week to prevent the color from fading.

Smell: 5 out of 5

My hair didn't smell like dye at all after dying it.

All my hair smelled like was the conditioner! :)

Would I repurchase this color? No. I was very disappointed how the color came out even though I knew the color would not turn out the same color on the box.

Recommend to Friend? Sure. If my friend ever wanted a more natural hair color but still wanted a nice colored tint.

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Hope this was helpful to you guys! If is wasn't sorry.

<3

Quick Update #2! :)

So, Spring Quarter started this week for my college. That's why I haven't posted consistently.
Anyway....

Here are upcoming reviews to look forward to for my blog!

• Urban Decay Naked Basics palette review and swatches
• Etude House Tear Liner in Pearl Tear Review
• John Frieda Dark Cherry Brown Hair dye review
• Maybe in June, another hair growth update?
• Sephora Birthday Sample: Benefit They're Real! mascara and Watt's Up! review

New ideas for my blog:

• "Pic of the Week"
• Advice?
• Tips (school, life, beauty?)
• Maybe even Outfit of the Day

Sorry for being so lazy and not posting on a regular schedule.

I'll try to hopefully, post something at least once a week. Except during finals week.

But please understand that I am a college student and I can't always find time to post.

See ya again soon guys ;)

My thoughts: Past.

According to my past crushes, guys only think of me as a little sister.
So, girls can’t act cute and someone who you can easily talk to then? No. Girls have to damage their hair every day by styling, wear make up, and wear skirts. So, before I wondered if I changed my style and how I act, will guys start to look at me as a potential girlfriend? Would this ever change?


 At least I found someone who accepts and loves me.


After every one of those crushes, I learned to cry my eyes out one day and move on the next. Or if you don't move on that fast, at least fake smile. If its an ex especially, it'll get to them how happy you are without them.

My advice:
Don’t rush to be in a relationship. Live it up as a single person while you can. ;)
All bad and upsetting things are only a shadow of the good in your future. It's worth the wait.



Life only gets better if you allow it to.

EOS Candy Brown Circle Lens Review

Here's another review of circle lens.
This time I did buy them from Maplelens.com instead.


*The reason why I posted three posts today is to make up for the fact that I've been gone for awhile plus, it's my birthday! :D *


Brand: EOS
Color: Brown
Diameter: 14.8mm

My whole experience with Maplelens.com is honestly better than PinkyParadise.
They are based in Malaysia so, I did get my contacts much faster and the amount I paid for these lenses were very understandable.

They usually ship 1-2 business days.
On Maplens.com these lens are $18.90 and on PinkyParadise.com they're $22.90. Neither of those prices include shipping.
They are on sale now for about $16. ;)

The only down side of Maplelens.com is that they don't carry much contacts that are prescribed. :(

Close up

Comparison; I know I look creepy...

Without contacts

What lenses come with

• Color: 10/10
• If you want something more natural you shouldn't get these lens.The color, as you see in the pictures, is very vibrant and unnatural. In any lighting they are noticeable. These lens do have a dolly or "fake" effect to them which is why I bought them.
• Comfort: 10/10
• When I'm wearing them, I don't feel them in my eyes at all. They are much thinner than my Geo Angel Blue lens. When i wear them I can't see the rim at all either.
• Enlarging: 10/10
• They are very enlarging compared to the Geo Angel Blue lens even though they're a bit bigger. I don't think I'm ever going to go bigger than these lens.

*I was not paid to review these lens or the Geo Angel Blue lens.*

If you're wondering what I'm wearing:
Eyebrows: Naked Basics Palette
Eyes: Naked Basics Palette, Left eye I have Almay one coat three effects mascara, Right eye I have Maybelline Volume Express mascara
Lips: Tokidokie Gelato tinted lip balm
Highlight: High Beam by Benefit

Hope you found this useful! :)

*All of my reviews are my honest opinion.*

My Hair Growth Journey: Update

So its been about 5 months or so since I started my hair growth journey.
Basically all the products I use are the same as in my first hair growth post.
Except for the fact that I do not use Pantene ProV Restore Beautiful Lengths any more.

Why? Because I really did not like the way my hair felt after shampooing. It basically felt very unmovable until I applied my conditioner.

I also finished my Biotin supplement and replaced it with Nature Bounty Hair, Skin, Nails.
I am forgetful so I forget to take at least one a day....yeah...

Tastes really gross since there's no coating... :P

Back in November 2012

December 2012

Today: March 2013

Keep in mind that my hair is not straightened or anything in the last picture.

I think the supplements are working. ;)

Soon I'm thinking of trying the shampoo that Shante Mac aka "luvableviet" on youtube uses.

Hopefully that shampoo also helps.

Hope this helped or something! :D